Is this the "charisma-pocalypse"?

Paul Graham makes a compelling case that charisma is the result of loving people (people in general, not specific people). People who love people are, all else being equal, more charismatic than people who don’t.

This rings true for me. I was truly charismatic just once in my life, during my time in Bhutan and particularly during a winter camp there where I spent a month immersed with a few close friends, a few dozen caring teachers and several hundred kind, compassionate, exuberant campers. The humanity around me was easy to love and that made it easy for me to love humanity. Through my love I became lovable.

But that virtuous cycle can easily turn around: if people are finding it harder and harder to love the unknown “other” (I think I don’t need to defend that premise in an election year), do they in turn become less love-able, and so on, until charisma is extinguished and grouchiness reigns supreme? Are we in a charisma-pocalypse?